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I have begun reading this book called “Real Love” by Mary Beth Bonacci. It’s a really interesting book on dating, marriage and the real meaning of sex. It kinda reminds you of Mary J. Blige’s “Real Love”, huh? “I need some real looooove! Oh, I’m searchin’ for some real loooove!”

Love is a timeless subject that is talked about in songs, books, status updates, tweets – everything! It is ultimately the one thing that everyone consciously or subconsciously seeks to fulfill their lives. But unfortunately, we often fill this need for love with unhealthy habits, activities or people. Luckily, there are books like this can help us sort through the clutter and ambiguity that the world fills us with.

Love isn’t something you can see or hold, which is why so many people spend a good portion of their lives just trying to figure out where it is, how they can get it and whether or not they’ve found it. I would like to share an excerpt from the book that I believe many people in this world need help with – to discern the difference between love and infatuation in their relationships. I pray that this can be one of many bread crumbs to help you give and receive true love.

What is the difference between love and infatuation?

Love loves the other exactly as he is. Infatuation loves the image he has built of the other person.

Love is being in love with someone. Infatuation is being ‘in love with love’.

Love happens gradually, over time. Infatuation happens quickly.

In love, two people get along better as time goes by. In infatuation, fights become more frequent and more severe over time.

In love, friends and family tend to approve. In infatuation, friends and family often disapprove.

Love sees the other as an important part of his world. Infatuation sees the other as his whole world.

Love brings out the best in you. It makes you more organized, more productive and more effective. Infatuation can bring out the worst in you. It can make you less organized, less productive and less your “real” self.

Love is consistent. Infatuation comes and goes.

Love seeks to give. Infatuation seeks to get.